What stories are we telling ourselves?

I love Bluey and the messages that the creators share for our kids and parents. Last month Season 3 dropped and let me share it’s no different. Last week Miss S introduced me to “Stories” and it’s all about the character Indie and the stories she tells herself and in particular thinking she’s not any good at using bees wax.

One line in the episode really hit home for me.

“Indie was back where she started. But what story was she going to tell herself this time?”

As soon as I heard it, I realised that not only was this message there for the kids watching it but us adults. Earlier this year, I started seeing a kinesiologist where we spoke a lot about me worrying about what people think of me and the impact of the stories that we tell ourselves. And how if we tell ourselves the same story enough, we believe it, whether it’s true or not and whether it’s negative or positive.

In motherhood, I have been guilty of this, and I am sure I am not the only one. Telling myself stories along the lines of:

⭐️ I’m not good enough.

⭐️ I’m not doing enough as a parent or wife.

⭐️ That it is my fault that the kids aren’t sleeping through the night.

⭐️ I’m the only one struggling with this issue.

⭐️ Everyone else is better than me.

These stories are also bombarded at us through the media. Newspaper stories comparing parenting styles, parents who stay at home and parents who are working, entertainment and many more. There can be that general feeling of I’m not good enough that we are feed daily.

However we need to stop listening to this message and telling ourselves that and when we do life becomes easier and less harder. I can say that because I know it. After speaking with my kinesiologist (who is an extremely gifted and kind woman) I stopped saying this and started just being me. Gosh it’s a lot easier.

But the stories aren’t just limited to parenthood and parenting. We also tell ourselves stories during pregnancy and let’s face it everyone wants to share a horror birth story to a pregnant woman, without thinking how this can impact how that woman feels about birth. Now I know you may be thinking Katie, you are being negative but lets face it do strangers or distant relatives come up to pregnant women and say let me tell you about my “empowering and wonderful birth?” I know I do, but I don’t remember any strangers telling me that.

Stories in pregnancy are very powerful, and the more we surround ourselves with positive stories about birth and women who have had an empowering physiological or vaginal birth we start believing that we too can do this.

If you are pregnant and finding negative stories about birth are filling your or your partners head and you have fears about birth remember it is never to late to change these stories. An independent childbirth education class will help you navigate these fears and provide you with the tools and confidence to rock your birth and be excited for it. If you are reading this and going yes this is me Katie, check out my Lamaze Childbirth Prenatal Class and then book in for a private class.

So while this message from Blue is more aimed at kids and to remind them that they don’t need to be get it right the first time, to keep trying and learning because you never know what is around the corner, it is also aimed at us parents. Thanks Bluey for reminding us parents to tell ourselves positive stories and to keep preserving on.

So as you read this, think about the stories you are telling yourself:

Are they helping you?

Are they holding you back?

How can I change this narrative?

Be like Indie and think about how you can change that story today. Start by telling yourself:

⭐️ That you are doing enough.

⭐️ You are amazing.

⭐️ I am in control of my birth.

⭐️ I will have an empowering

If you would like to share your story of how you are changing the stories you tell yourself in relation to parenting, pregnancy or birth, add it below because, as we learned from Baz Luhrmanns Strictly Ballroom:

“A problem shared, is a problem halved.

Katie